Friday, February 19, 2016

Outcome Independence: it's not just for meeting women


Outcome Independence is talked about a lot ... specifically where it relates to your mental attitude with meeting, dating and interacting with women.  But it is so much more than that - if done right, it becomes a core belief for your life.

Let's look at what it really means first ... and to do that, let's look at each word separately

Outcome: the way a thing turns out; a consequence.

Simply put, an outcome is a result.  You do something and something happens.  When we experiment, we have an outcome - it may be what we expected (our assumption or hypothesis) or it could be something completely different.

In the world of sports (let's take American Football), each play (experiment) has and outcome (how many yards gained or lost) - each play has an outcome and the game itself is a culmination of "small" outcomes (the score).


Independence: the fact or state of being independent (meaning of independent: [1] free from outside control; not depending on another's authority and [2] not depending on another for livelihood or subsistence)

Since Independence is a derivative word, we have to look first at the primary word - Independent - which has two distinct meaning, because both are important.  The first - "not depending on another's authority" and second - "not depending on another for livelihood or subsistence" - when combined, create a solid foundation for "independence" in one's life.

When we bring them together, we end up with something that means:  When you act in an independent way, and live your life with independence, you OWN the consequence.  And if you are truly independent (not relying on another's authority or on someone else for your life - it you fully understand - it really is up to you.

Outcome Independence is not about going out and "sarging" to get laid.  It's not about ramping up your courage to go talk to a "beautiful" girl - it's about a belief in your life - that everything you do in your life is up to you, no on else.  It's about taking ownership of YOU (the good, the bad and the ugly) and owning it all (thoughts, actions and consequences).  If taken to the extreme, it is a belief that we are both independent and responsible (both of which are core to being a Man).

Now, let's just for a second, think beyond "fucking women" for a second and look at how this belief can become a core one within your life ...

- School/Education:  First of all, it is up to you what you put into your brain - what you want to learn.  You can decide that you want a formal education - Bachalors, Masters, PhD, etc. - in fact, it may be the only way for you to have/be involved in your chosen career.  OR you decide formal education is BS and you want to learn on your own.  Having Outcome Independence says - do it your way, just don't bitch if it doesn't work out like you thought it would.

- Career/Business/Making Money:  Being truly independent is a (not dependent on someone else for your livelihood) may mean you start your own business.  It also means, you may decided to be an employee - at it's core it means whatever the path you choose, you own it.  If you start and fail, you own it.  If you work for someone and get fired or laid off, you own it.  If you only make $10 and hour, you own it.  If you make $1000 and hour, you own it.

- Health/Fitness:  I'm sure you're starting to get the idea here, but if you want to look like a Greek God, if that's the outcome you want, you will need to put in the work to do it.  But what if you never look like that?  That's where the other end of the equation comes in - if you don't make it, you own that too.  Also, if you obtain it - and then loose it - it's on you again.

So, Outcome is the consequence, Independence (for lack of a better word) is the  the attitude.  If you have a core belief of "Outcome Independence" you know you own every result you get, but that you are also independent of that result.  If the result is not what you wanted - realize it, don't be devastated by it, and try again OR decide that thing is not for you.  On the other hand, if the result is what you want, celebrate it, but realize it is only one "outcome" a singular event - life goes on.

So as a way to end ... I'm just going to repeat what is in the graphic above ... as my personal definition of Outcome Independence ... click here, to see what others say it means ...


the CORE belief in yourself as an independent Man

owning the consequences of your thoughts & actions 

with the understanding...failure it not defeat & success if not victory


Eyes front Gentlemen.  Live. Learn. Lead.

2 comments:

  1. This makes me think a lot about mindset and how acting independent of the outcome is the way to mental stability.

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  2. Thanks William ... I bought/read "Gorilla Mindset" by Mike Cernovich over at DangerAndPlay.com ... and obviously, mindset was on my mind (forgive the pun). The entire point of this specific rambling was this ... quit thinking of this "stuff" to get better at banging girls ... yes, it works there, but it works for so much more.

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