Thursday, June 19, 2014

"If ifs and buts were candy and nuts..."

The late, great Don Meredith (if you don't know who he is, then you need to check out the Wikipedia page - when I was growing up, he was one of those quintessential men) is attributed to the following saying ...

"If ifs and buts were candy and nuts, we'd all have a Merry Christmas"

My has said that since I was a kid (several lifetimes ago) and I always laughed at it.  It's a silly saying, one that rolls off the tongue easily and is very whimsical ... but if you really look at what it says, he's talking about making excuses.  You know, those "reasons" we come up with for not getting something done or not want to do something - yea, those excuses - we live our lives by them.  Oh, they sound reasonable, they sound logical, but in reality, they are just excuses to not do something.

Now, I'm big on managing your time effectively.  Which really comes down to allocating time to the big thing "What I Want" -- but the key is, you have to know what you want, before you can spend time doing it.

Hey, I've got no problem with someone wanting to be one the best video gamer in the world - but if you are playing video games, and that's not the reason, yet you spend the majority of your time doing it - then how is it supporting "what you want"?  Or how about TV watching?  What's the benefit to it?  Is it making you a better person, a better Man, a better friend, a better person?  I can't answer that question for you, only you can.

My question to you (and to me) is Why Not?  One of the most interesting movies about taking a "no excuses" attitude to the extreme is "Yes Man" with Jim Carrey.  He is forced into (through a series of events) to say YES to any request, instead of his normal response of NO.  What happens is that all of a sudden, he starts to really experience his life, he gets to meet people he would never meet, and finds out about himself in ways he never expected.  I'm not advocating going to the extreme - but I am saying that if our first answer is always NO, we may be missing out on some significant events in life.  NO is usually triggered by some internal defense mechanism - we learned to say NO very early in life (usually our first word spoken) - and helped to keep us from getting hurt (or in the cirlces of Men - Butt Hurt).  But saying NO automatically is just an excuse - and if we say it often enough, people quit asking - and at that point, we don't have to say NO anymore, and it becomes so much easier to play video games and watch TV.

Excuses are personal justifications to do nothing.  To not progress, to not move forward, to not challenge ourselves.  If you do that - use excuses, blame other people, say NO to everything - then you are denying your essential core - your Man-ness.  We are here to struggle, to do the hard stuff, to be the rock, to provide guidance and assistance.  We are here to achieve - no to sit and wait and dream.

In the immortal words of Ron Burgundy ... "I'm a man who discovered the wheel and built the Eiffel Tower out of metal and brawn. That's what kind of man I am."  We are all that Man - you just have to figure out what you want, then start going for it.  Not easy, but much more fulfilling that video games and TV.

Eyes front Gentlemen.  Live, Learn, Lead.


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