Rollo, from The Rational Male, just posted an interesting article about "Empathy" - and the basic myth that woman are more empathetic than Men. I agree with the basic premise of the story, some of the examples are interesting, but in my mind, the most important thing to remember is that IF you believe this woman that you love will act outside of her traditional/biological programming - you are wrong. I'm going to up a Part 2 to the Beta Husband article(s) - because it's important to understand what Men and woman are just wired differently - and "putting a ring on it" does not change that simple fact. It's time to forget what you think you know, and start becoming aware of "how the world really works". Living your life in a fantasy world will only lead you to heart break - choose to be real. The following is my comment on the post mentioned above - this weekend, I'm going to put another post up - enjoy.
Once again, another good post – for those looking for LTR or marriage. Once committed, Men will over look these types of short comings in a woman, and in many cases, will help them through it (even if in a bumbling or awkward way). For many Men, it’s a shock to the system when their wife (or SO) doesn’t help them when times are “tough”. In my experience, there is more anger than caring during those times – and a basic rallying cry of “get your shit together” or the ubiquitous “Man Up”.
And if Men ever open up about their “feelings” to these same woman that ask the question “just tell me what’s wrong, what can I do to help?” – God help them. Because if you naively believe they really want to know that you may be questioning your path, your life, your existence – it’s the first step down the path of “losing her” and subtracting from her attraction to you. Stay on that path, instead of reversing it, and you end up minus a wife (or SO).
It sucks – especially if you are unprepared, or unknowing of this dynamic. It is the path of Men to be strong, to show no fear, to shed no tears, to show no weakness – to lead. Anything opposite of those have to be done in private, away from her and others. If you are not prepared to do that – or believe that your wife/GF/SO (or even your daughter as Rollo mentioned) isn’t like that – your path will be much harder than it has to be.Eyes front Gentlemen. Live, Learn, Lead.
Live, Learn, Lead — that’s the path to creating attraction in woman and living a fulfilled life as a Man.